How To Use Your Mind In Bed & Think Your Way To Orgasm
Sometimes our minds can feel like the biggest party crashers in the bedroom. We overthink, and stress out, and before we know it, our bodies shut down on pleasure.
But what if you could flip the script? What if you could harness your thoughts to guide your body toward more pleasure, more desire, more intimacy?
We think 90,000 thoughts a day, and so expecting to go from a thousand thoughts to none is unrealistic. What’s more realistic and effective is to learn exactly how to use your thoughts to benefit your pleasure.
Here’s the secret: Your body is always listening to your thoughts, and by choosing thoughts that nurture desire and pleasure, you can transform your sex life. Simple, right?
Step 1: Acknowledge and Release
First, let go of the idea that your mind is your enemy in bed. Sure, overthinking and stress can block your natural arousal. Instead of letting negative thoughts take over, decide that you’re going to guide your mind—transform it into your best ally when it gets loud.
Step 2: Embrace the Power of Sex Mantras
Mantras are powerful mind tools. They help focus your thoughts and set a clear intention for what you want to feel. Or you can see it as a guided meditation if mantra sounds fluffy. Here are a few to get you started:
"I open, I relax, I receive." (my personal fav, it’s magic!)
"I let go, I let go, I open to love."
"I feel desire rise, I feel pleasure fill me."
"Fill me up with pleasure."
Feel free to create your mantra. The key is to pick phrases that resonate with you and that expand your body. In other words, they’re like sex spells!
Step 3: Practice, Practice, Practice
Repeat your chosen mantra when you feel your mind pulling you away. Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and let the words wash over you. Trust me, I’ve experienced it firsthand: when I recite my sex mantra, my body responds. The energy shifts, and my partner can feel it. It’s like turning on a light switch for desire!
Step 4: Notice the Transformation
As you make this practice a habit, pay attention to the subtle shifts:
Less stress, more arousal: Your body begins to relax into the moment, freeing up space for pleasure.
Confidence in your sensuality: That nagging feeling of “something’s wrong with me thinking” starts to fade, replaced by the empowering truth that you can control your mind and turn it into an ally. Your mind is meant to serve you!
A magnetic connection: Your partner notices the change too. There’s a spark—a renewed vitality—that elevates your sex life when he feels your body respond to these secret sex spells.
Remember, your mind isn’t the enemy, and thinking is normal—your mind is a powerful tool you can direct toward creating a deeply satisfying, pleasure-filled sex life.
So next time you catch yourself overthinking or feeling blocked, gently guide your thoughts back with your sex mantra. Trust the process, be patient with yourself, and watch as your body responds and your sex life transforms, one thought and one action at a time…
With love and desire,
Aude Olivia
Your Intimacy Coach
